Your time with an escort of your choice should be enjoyable and sexually fulfilling in every way. However, there are certain etiquettes you need to follow and abide by when meeting an escort for the first time as it will help make the ambience more pleasurable and comfortable for both the parties involved. Until the ice of formality is broken, it would become very difficult for the escort to go out of her way to pleasure you or for you to get the kind of ecstatic feeling you desire. In this article, we will talk in brief about the Escort etiquettes that you need to follow and keep in mind when meeting your choice of escort. This especially goes for the people who are booking an escort for the first time as these etiquettes will help you enjoy and get the kind of experience you were looking for with no strings attached. Rest assured there will be such a difference between the kind of experience you receive, when you follow and don’t follow these basic etiquettes. Hygiene and Cleanliness:

Escorts know what customers are looking for and because it is their profession, they are always at their best when they go in to meet their clients. It is always with the hope of making a long term client and that is why, rest assured you will get the finest of services when booking your escort. However, to help her in providing you what she wants to, the first thing that you need to take care of is hygiene and cleanliness. It is a basic etiquette and requirement for not only escorts but just about anyone to get intimate with you. If you do not come across as clean and you are smelly then the chances are that the escort will have a repulsive attitude towards you or may even cancel the appointment immediately. Since, you know when the appointment would be, it is best that you take a shower, put on some aftershave and wear fresh and crisp clothes. Your hair should be neatly combed and the whole appearance must be fresh, clean and appealing. The smell of your breath also plays a vital role and that is why chewing mints or brushing just minutes before the appointment is a good idea. Also, if you are going on an outcall, keep chewing a couple of mints while you are on the way. For people who are booking escorts for the first time, it is imperative that they keep these points in their mind, otherwise the whole experience might turn out to be something really different than what you expected. You can’t just think of your comfort as the escort needs to be comfortable too to be able to provide the kind of sexual fulfillment you desire.

Stay clean, fresh breath, smell good and wear nice clothes to make a good impression and make the escort feel comfortable around you. Health and Safety The escort industry has grown in the last couple of decades drastically to become even more sophisticated and gone are the days when there was no difference between prostitutes and escorts. Things are different and so is the overall fun. The advanced nature of the escort industry also reflects in the sophistication of how the business takes place and how every aspect of the business is taken care of whether it is fun, health or safety. However, escorts who are in this industry tend to come across people who are not accurately the most gentlemen of men. This is because many times when customers are suffering from some kind of health problem or have a disease, they tend to hide it and this puts escorts at the risk of getting affected by it as well. Health and safety are the primary concerns in the escort industry and whether you have booked an escort before and have experience in the escorts’ world or if you are booking escorts for the first time, you should know that you should clearly mention up-front if you have any health problems, diseases or even cuts and rashes.

If you are disabled in some way or would need  wheelchair access, you can let the agency or the escort know so that they can make feasible arrangements. If you think you just have a cold, cough or influenza and think it's not a big deal, you are wrong. While getting intimate with you, she runs the risk to get it too and this will affect her work majorly. So, whether it is something very serious or even something as small as a cut, rash or maybe even warts, make sure you inform the escort or agency upon making the booking. No matter what, in any situation, do not think of hiding any health condition which might put the escorts health or safety at risk. This can lead to great trouble for both of you later on and rest assured of a bitter experience in this case. In call and Outcall: If you are calling her at your home, apartment or hotel, make sure the place is located in a friendly neighborhood and that the ambience inside is friendly and cozy. It should not be too dark or give the sense of suspicion.

Escorts look for safety and security when on an outcall. Make sure that there are no guests present as an escort will not visit a property with more than one person. If you are bringing drinks, bring a sealed bottle as that is what is preferred. Giving drinks from an already opened bottle is not a good idea as even though you might be a gentleman; there have been cases of substance abuse through drinks on Escorts. When going to her place, make sure you are formal and respect her privacy. Do not be over friendly but yes, be courteous. Ask for permission before doing anything, it is necessary at the initial few minutes but later on, its fine once you have built a bond. It’s a sign of decency escorts look for. Do not be too loud or too demanding. It's her place so respect the place and make sure you do not share the address with anyone. Confidentiality is the key in this business. Tipping: Tipping is always a good idea, however, most often the prices you are charged are all inclusive and technically tipping is not required but it is definitely a good idea if the lady has met your expectations and gone the extra mile to bring that smile of satisfaction to your face. In the long term, your little tip will go a long way in guaranteeing you that extra bit which you require when it comes to sensual pleasure and complete satisfaction.

Everything You Need To Know About Golden Showers

While it might appear to be a seemingly new sexual activity, being turned on by bodily fluids is a relatively common desire, according to the experts. Golden showers, aka "water sports" are a sexual desire that more people experience that you might realize. The fetish for them is called "urolagnia," meaning "lust for urine." 

“It is more common than most people would think. It is as common as any other fetish that people have relating to sex,” psychologist Dr. Nikki Martinez explains. And though it might make you feel a bit grossed out (or get you excited, if that’s your thing), receiving, taking or giving a golden shower is often an exercise of trust within your relationship and being vulnerable. From what a golden shower really is to how to talk to your partner about it, the sex experts give their best scoop:

1. What Is A Golden Shower?

Most people (and hey, we might argue all people at some point) have peed while taking a shower, either at their home or while on vacation. The color of your urine mixed with the pouring water creates a yellow-ish shade and that’s how you might think about a golden shower. Except instead of swirling down the drain, the sexual fetish includes performing that act on someone else or having them perform it on you.

“It is during the act of foreplay of intercourse when one of the couple — more commonly the female to the male — urinates on their partner as part of the activity,” Martinez explains. “It is a sexual act of dominance and submission, with the person doing the urination as the dominant, and the one being urinated on being the one being dominated.”

If you can wrap your mind around it, just like you might enjoy finishing your load on her face (or her breasts or anywhere) - you might get another satisfaction from her peeing on you or if she’s into it, letting you pee on her. “For some people body fluids are a very erotic thing. Urine is one of the body fluids that is also eroticized, but not as openly as other fluids like ejaculate and spit."

2. Why Do People Like Golden Showers?

If the smell, the idea and the visual of this act doesn’t have you reaching for your willy, you may be wondering why in the world someone would willingly pee or be peed on. The experts offer some insight on what it could be a fun - and yes, unique - flavor to add to their sexual routine.

“Some people enjoy the degradation or humiliation component of it, some people enjoy engaging in it because it's taboo. There's no wrong or right reason to engage in it. As long as you and your partners are being safe and consensual, it's normal and healthy to explore your fetishes,” Riley explained.

Especially if your relationship is thrives with a little S&M or role playing, adding in the lubricant of a golden shower could take it to the next level. As sex educator and host of the live sex Q&A variety show Sex Ed A Go-GoDirty Lola explains: “The dominant/submissive dynamic and the humiliation aspect sometimes go hand-in-hand with a couple who enjoys golden showers. Peeing on the one you love can be seen as marking your territory.”

3. Are Golden Showers Healthy?

It’s true that urine has many healing aspects — it cures a painful jellyfish sting, can act as a natural disinfectant when you’re out of options and if boiled, can actually be consumed to save you from dying of thirst. But it also is full of bacteria, making this particular fetish a curious case for health.

But what works in your favor? The actual composition of urine is 95 percent water (hence why you technically could drink it) and 5% nutrients and minerals like calcium, iron, magnesium and zinc, according to clinical sexologist, Dawn Michael.

“As long as the people engaging in piss play are consenting to it, it is a totally fine fetish to be involved in. Urine is sterile, people can drink their own urine without posing a health risk, so the main concern with piss play to make sure you and your partner negotiate it and get consent on when, where and how of how to engage with this fetish,” Riley explains

4. What's The History Of Golden Showers?

While the actual sex term "golden shower" has been around since the 1940s, Merriam-Webster’s dictionary didn’t sanction it officially in its pages until 1968, as defined as "the act of urinating on another persona, usually as part of a sex act." 

"The term made its first most noted appearance in popular culture in former callgirl Xaviera Hollander's best-selling memoir The Happy Hooker in 1972. Since then the term has popped up in music, movies, TV and politics,” Lola notes.

While urolagnia doesn't receive a ton of exposure in popular media, there is an episode of Sex and the City where Carrie dates a politician who requests a golden shower after they’ve been dating for a while. After much deliberation, Carrie decides she can’t go through with it, thus ending their relationship.

But if you’re interested in trying this act and it’s important to your overall sexual happiness, approaching the topic in a meaningful, patient way is important.

5. How Can You Talk To Your Partner About Getting Into Golden Showers?

Before you go balls-to-the-wall (or ahem, the toilet), Riley suggests talking about sexual fetishes, in general.

“I highly recommend filling out a yes/no/maybe checklist with your partner to get an idea of what you all are interested in. Getting more involved in the kink and fetish scenes in your city might also be a great way to build community with other people who share your fetishes. Asking them how they brought it up with their partners might also help give you ideas of where to start,” she notes.

Pegging, also called "bend over boyfriend" or BOB, may not be everyone’s cup of tea. But for couples who have a foundation of good communication and are looking for a new avenue to explore, pegging offers a new world of stimulation for him and a wonderful opportunity for role play and power exchange for both partners. There’s no one way to peg as long as you follow the basics of safe anal play. But if you’re looking for a place to start, this step-by-step might help.

Talk First

Anal penetration of any kind requires a lot of communication. You can have perfectly safe anal penetration without any pain just as long as you listen to your body and if you’re feeling pain or discomfort you slow down, add more lube, and try a different position or form of stimulation. All this means you need to be able to talk first. If you can’t talk about the idea of pegging you’re probably not ready to peg (or at least not ready to peg safely). Tips on how to talk about new sexual ideas with a partner.

Get Comfortable With Anal Penetration

If you’re a man looking to get pegged it may not be the best idea to make that your first experience with anal penetration. Start on your own. Before you invest in toys and gear, just start off with your own fingers (be sure to use lots of water-based lubricant and latex or non-latex gloves). You may want to experiment with self-prostate massager to see how it feels and whether you like it or not. Exploring on your own will also make you a better and more receptive partner.

Get to Know His Anatomy

If you’re the female partner make sure you not only understand the basics of safe anal play but also are familiar with male sexual anatomy (particularly the anus and the prostate gland). A great way to get a crash course on what he likes is to ask him to pleasure himself and let you watch. Not everyone is comfortable with this and one way to reduce self-consciousness is to have him wear a blindfold. This makes it easier for him to slip into his imagination and you can feel free to get as up-close as you like.

Get Your Gear

Finding a good quality strap-on and the right dildo is key to a positive pegging experience. The female partner should choose the strap-on. There are several things to consider in choosing the right strap on dildo harness. Just as important is finding a dildo that’s the right size and shape. There are some specific things you need to look for in a dildo for pegging. In addition to a dildo and strap-on, make sure you have plenty of water-based lubricant on hand as well as gloves and, depending on your dildo material, some condoms.

Try It Out Solo

Pegging offers the potential for intense role play and gender bending experiences, and many people are surprised by how much they are turned on by the feeling and how “real” it feels. Still, for most people the first time they try a strap-on on, it feels awkward and strange. Once you’ve got your gear home try it on by yourself. Try it on under your clothing and see what it feels like to undress with your strap-on. Try moving around, dancing, even masturbate all with your strap-on in place. This will help you get used to the feeling and learn how your movements make the dildo move.

Don’t Stampede to the Pegging

Anal penetration can never be rushed so if you’re planning on some pegging, schedule in a lot of warm up time. Make sure you're both really turned on, relaxed, and ready. Some couples will start with penile-vaginal intercourse and then switch to pegging. There’s no one way to do it, just be aware that it’s not like porn.

Let Him Take It In

Once you’ve explored the outside of his anus and got him ready gently put the tip of the dildo up against the anus. Don’t try to push it or force it in, instead, let him relax and take the dildo in. Once the dildo is inside him avoid fast movements at first, pay attention to the movements of his body and move with him. The dildo may slip out but don’t pull it out quickly (unless he asks).

Don’t Forget to Add the Lube

Keep a bottle of lubricant handy and be sure to keep adding more lube to the dildo as your playing. If the dildo is partially inside him you can apply lube to the part that isn’t, and as you're playing, when the dildo is fully out of his body, apply more to the tip and the entire shaft.

Let Him Set the Pace

One way of letting him determine the speed of strokes and the depth that he likes is to get him to move and, at first, you stay relatively still. If you're brand new to pegging this is a safe way to start and it gives you time to watch how he moves on the dildo and what he likes. Remind him that he can always go slower or faster; all he has to do is ask.

Follow His Lead, But Start Slow and Shallow

This doesn’t mean you’re off the hook. Once he’s comfortable with the dildo it’s time to start taking control. Begin with slow and shallow penetration. Here’s where having a smaller dildo can really be a benefit as it means you don’t have to worry as much about going too far. As you both get into it and are more comfortable you can experiment with deeper thrusting, but pay attention to what he says and what his body is telling you.

Don’t Forget About the Other Body Parts

The focus of pegging may be on the bum, but it’s still sex play and if you can bring in other parts of his body, all the better. Depending on your position you may be able to rub his back or legs, or you may be able to give him a handjob at the same time. Be aware that many men lose their erections when they are penetrated anally but this doesn’t mean they aren’t turned on or that they don’t want to be touched more. In terms of the kind of touch, experiment with everything from rubbing and massage to running your fingernails along his skin to slapping.

Experiment With Different Positions

Despite the long association of the rear-entry position with anal sex, there are many sex positions that work equally well for anal sex or pegging. Each position has its benefits and drawbacks, so let your physical comfort be your guide, but try out a few different ones to see which positions give you the flexibility to move how you want.

If you’d like to see a pegging video we highly recommend Bend Over Boyfriend from Fatale Media. If you’re more of a reader, check out the Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex.

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